Dear Tango Tia: I’m thinking of quitting tango because most of the time all I get out of it is a bruised ego and humiliation. Every other kind of dance I do is about having fun. Tango seems to be about being serious. I don’t get it. Am I missing something?
Dear Missing: You are right…tango dancers can be very serious. However, just because we’re not smiling doesn’t mean we’re not having fun. There are lots of smiles and laughter during cortinas, but when the music starts, it’s time to concentrate. If your ego is getting shattered, perhaps private lessons to crank up your skills and confidence would be in order. Maybe attend a few milongas just to observe respected leaders and memorize some of their basic moves. Fun comes in many forms; for tango it’s often in a mind-body-partner-connection kind of way. Seriously.