Dear Tango Tia: My husband and I have been married for 30 years. We’ve been taking tango lessons for the last year and all of a sudden Mr. No Dance is becoming another Fred Astaire. Women won’t let him sit down, not that he tries very hard to avoid them. In fact he seems to enjoy them a little too much and leaves me sitting while he prances around with women smacked up against him. He says he dances with them because he doesn’t want to hurt their feelings. Well, what about my feelings? It’s no fun going to milongas and watching Mr. Happy Feet get his kicks with women who don’t really know how much of a jerk he can be. Should I suggest we see a counselor? Or should I just cut to chase and see a lawyer?–Cheated On By Tango
Dear Cheated: Yep, sounds like a jerk. If talking to him hasn’t/doesn’t work, try counseling if the marriage is worth saving and you’re willing to bide your time while his ego cools off. IF he’s willing to go. It’s not uncommon for one partner to get hooked on the dance and extra attention and the other to realize it was not such a good partnership in other ways either. Plan C: Attorney.