Dear Tango Tia: Last night some guy asked me to dance and when I got close to him he pulled me against his chest and held me so tight I couldn’t breathe. I didn’t know what to do or how to get away. What could I have said or done to let him know I was very uncomfortable? And how can I keep it from happening again?–I Couldn’t Breathe
Dear Couldn’t Breathe: Are you willing to tell this dork how he makes you feel? If not, do not dance with him. As long as women keep dancing with him and don’t speak up, he’ll never know what he’s doing wrong and will keep making women miserable. If you dance with him again, and he pulls you against him, try pushing away and saying “I prefer to dance open frame.” If he opens or says anything that lets you know he didn’t realize he was making you uncomfortable, great. If he keeps holding you close, or trying to, then write him off. There are plenty of leaders who care about how their partners feel. Find them.